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If you have come to this page, you may be seeking help for yourself, your spouse, or another loved one. Welcome. We are so happy that you have taken this initial step for information. On this page, you will find resources, links to helpful websites, books for reading, and other information that hopefully will be helpful to you.
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How do I know if I have a problem?
If you ask this question, that might be the first indication that you need help. However, it is confusing to determine the difference between a simple moral failing, an addiction, or a compulsive disorder. Generally speaking, something needs to change if you cannot attain 90 days of freedom at a time. Pornography use, coupled with masturbation, changes the chemical makeup of the brain, and it can take up to 100 days for the brain to heal from the changes that have taken place. There is a video of Gary Wilson speaks about the addictiveness of internet pornography at the bottom of the page for you to watch.
On-line Assessment Tool
If you are wondering if you really need help, you can take this easy online assessment. The assessment is based on 7 different levels which range from someone who might look at rated R movies once in a while, to someone who is compulsively acting out in dangerous ways. For an explanation of the seven levels watch the video in the bottom left corner of the website. When you take the assessment you can invite a sponsor to receive your results. If you are working with a counselor or spiritual director, enter that persons email to share your results.
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WEBSITES
USCCB - Help for those Struggling with Pornography
USCCB - Wash Me Thoroughly
Integrity Restored Website
Faithful & True Website
Beggar's Daughter Website
She Recovery Website
Sexaholics Anonymous (12 Step Program)
Trafficking and Pornography are Linked (https://www.gidiocese.org/internetsocialmediasafety)
BOOKS for the ONE ADDICTED
Treating Pornography Addiction by Dr Kevin Skinner
Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Dr Mark Laaser
Out of the Shadows by Dr Patrick Carnes
Wired for Intimacy by William Struthers
No Stones: Women delivered from sexual shame by Marnie Feree
Delivered by Matt Fradd (testimonials)
BOOKS for the WIFE
Shattered Vows by Deborah Laaser
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse by Marsha Means
Restored by Matt and Cameron Fradd (testimonials)
FOR COUPLES
Seven Desires of Every Heart by Mark and Deborah Laaser
Called to Love by Jose Granados and Carl Anderson
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One of the most efficient ways to prevent pornographic material from entering your home is to install a filter on all computers and devices.
Computer Filters
Many filter systems are available that block offensive and pornographic content. These password-protected filters (be sure to have someone outside the home set them up and keep the password!) You can also send accountability reports, restrict search terms, and put time limits on internet usage.
There is no reason to allow objectionable content into your home. Consider using the following software:
Filters for Other Devices
Filters are important for phones and other systems that access the web. These mobile devices can provide additional temptation to those who struggle with pornography. When considering which phone/device to purchase, check to see whether they are compatible with filters. A few of the filters available are:
- iPhone, iPad, iPod: Covenant Eyes
- Droid: Safe Eyes
- Android: Net Nanny
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In the following video Gary Wilson speaks about the addictiveness of internet pornography. You can find more of his videos at www.yourbrainonporn.com.
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